Coming to the realization that you and your partner need to separate is a monumental decision. It may have taken years to come to terms with this decision. But the road leading to the finalization of a divorce is often laid trying circumstances as well. If you have decided to go through with a divorce, here are some things that you should know about the process so that you can be prepared.
If divorce is a decision you came to on your own, you will want to make a plan for how you are going to tell your partner. Some people prefer to have loved ones around when they do this, and others prefer to keep the conversation private. Whatever route you take, make sure that you feel safe. Partners are often blindsided by this kind of news, and some may become irate.
From financial responsibilities to dividing your finances, it is important to think about how your situation will change after a divorce. It is common for one partner to handle the finances in a relationship, so make sure that if that was you, you tell your partner what steps they will need to take going forward. And if it wasn't you, make sure that you understand what steps you will need to take going forward, like setting up automatic payments or getting separate bank accounts.
Additionally, if you and your partner pooled your money together, you will need to budget how to cover your expenses without their income.
And lastly, it is important that you know your options for divorce. Some have been led to believe that the only way to handle a divorce is through lawyers and litigation. In reality, that is only one option. Another option is mediation. Mediation will allow you and your partner to collaborate in a way that results in the best outcome for all. It is a neutral option, and often it is a cheaper and quicker option.
If mediation seems like the option for you, contact our experienced mediators at Solutions & Resolutions.